- Stop over thinking.
First instincts are usually the best, and we should ALWAYS take them into consideration. Sometimes we start to over think a situation especially if it is extremely positive or extremely negative and in all honesty this is the worst thing you could do to yourself. If you find that this keeps happening to you the best way to overcome it is to take a step back and think about it from a different perspective. If this was a friend coming to you for advice what would you say, this can give you a fresh outlook on the situation and stop you from digging yourself into a hole. Learning to accept life as it is is sometimes the best way to look at things, don’t get me wrong I am all about making changes in your life but sometimes things are just how they are and we need to learn to cope with that better. Not everything is in our control to change.
- Head vs Heart.
Finding a happy balance can be tough but you need to make a good decision logically while still following what your heart wants and being true to yourself. By being aware of making an emotional based decision means that you will be thinking more factually about the different choices you have in front of you and then only after following your heart which is better to think of as following a passion. Make a choice for something that will inspire you and lead you into your future.
- Make a pros and cons list.
Look at the advantages and disadvantages of both and write this down on a piece of paper. Sometimes you might think something is a great idea but when you actually sit down and write it all out the disadvantages my be twice as long as the advantages. This is not a reason to discard something entirely though, some of the advantages my out way 2, 3 or more disadvantages!
This is something that I was always told growing up and never took on board until recently. I would always believe that I was making a great decision without really looking at what I would be missing or lacking in in life. I find making a list with someone that you are close to and trust to help with ideas for either side is also a great way to do this, and if you agree with their idea add it to the list.
- Know what you want.
Don’t base the decision on other peoples opinion although it is important to hear what they have to say. Don’t let anyone and everyone have a opinion only the closest friends and family and possibly only 2 or 3 or you will get overloaded with information. This is important because everyone always has an opinion but most of the time they are saying what THEY would do and what THEY think is best but it might not be in the best interests for you. Taking on board other opinions is 100% important but it is also important to stay strong in what you truly believe. In the end it is effecting your life and it is your decision to make, no one elses and therefore you need to have no one to blame but yourself if something goes wrong or it makes you unhappy. In the end you thought it was a good idea at the time but it may or may not turn out how you wanted in the long run but you must remember how you made the choice and you alone.
Taking on board all of the positives and the negatives and don’t look back. Once you have made your decision find a way to be at peace with it and don’t second guess yourself. Know that you made this decision with all the information in front of you and you made it for the best future you could at the time. 100% commitment is hard but try to avoid looking back and second guessing your choice. The grass will always look greener on the other side when in reality it probably isn’t.
My Own Experience
If someone had told me a few years ago to quit my dancing career (and I’m telling you they did!) and told me my life would be so much happier, less stressful and better for my overall health (and they did!), I would have said NO this is my passion, this is what I love and I couldn’t live without it. But now 2 years on having quit dancing just teaching kids dance classes satisfies my creative dance craving I can now say it was the best decision of my life AND it took me a whole year plus a little more to realise this. I believe I needed to take the time to come to this conclusion on my own because if I had have quit when people told me too I would have always had regrets and would have blamed them for what ‘could have been’. Now knowing it was 100% my decision I couldn’t be happier, there are times I do look back and feel a little jealous but then I look forward to my future and the reasons I made the decision and I know I made the right choice.