Life can sometimes get in the way of life. You get what I mean? I am sure you do!
You can sometimes get so caught up with what is going on in your life and your feelings that you can forget about other people. I find that I get so stressed (usually about nothing worth stressing about) and caught up with whats going on in my head that I forget to ask my loved ones how they are feeling. I know this is something I have to work on but I find this very difficult to get out of the feeling which always spirals out of control
I tend to have a habit of taking on more than I can chew and it overwhelms me and it is my close friends and family who actually take the brunt of the stress. They are the ones who have to pick me up off the ground when I am having a melt down which is usually caused by a mixture of not enough time to do all the things I need to do and also being so overtired that all a need is three PROPER sleeps in a row. See taking on more than I can chew.
So I know we all think we are super busy but even my boss and work colleuges don’t know how I do it. I mean, I don’t know how I do it. Just to give you an idea….
Work 35-40hrs per week (part time…) at a dance school office
Work 15hrs per week at 3 different dance schools teaching kids
Studying (6-10hrs per week) a Bachelor of Business (3rd year) online
I work 6 days a week with only Sundays off, then again Sunday is my study day, assignment day, invoice day AND rest day! I don’t know about you but its pretty hard to remember to even eat in between all of this.
I also admit that I haven’t taken a holiday in about two and a half years…. that could also be a contributing factor. But guess what! I am about to go on a two week holiday after Easter and it couldn’t come at a better time. It is more than overdue and the first holiday with my partner and I get to meet my Goddaughter and her little brother for the FIRST time. I couldn’t be more excited for it
This post is more of a rant than my usual but I am trying to get back into writing again as it is something that makes me happy. I am struggling to find the time but I am going to give it my best shot. I hope you guys all have a lovely week!
Anyone stress out about the future. Yeah. Me too. Always
I swear it is one of my biggest weaknesses. Maybe it is my need to control everything, I stress about not being able to control the outcome of everything and for some reason this takes full control of my being more often than I would like to admit.
I am going to go back to start yoga and meditation again, it worked last time right?
I do know not everything is in your control but I find it very hard to let go and let everything fall into place, when really it usually does itself without me needing to have a mental breakdown about it
So here are some things I am trying to implement as staples in my life to help
Meditate – Take a few minutes to myself and establish a good headspace for the day ahead.
Workout – Go to the gym, it helps as an outlet and realises good endorphins.
Write everything down – I have a daily dairy to plan my life, never having to stress about anything!
Lists – To do lists ensure nothing is forgotten as well as feeling accomplished that you have completed things.
You – You are the most important person so make sure you do something you like doing, whether it be as simple as a walk or trip to the movies. Reward yourself for being you.
Goodluck and I hope this helps you as much as it helps me!
Bringing in the new year has made me think about setting some serious goals. Not the usual “I want to get skinnier” “I want to eat healthier” etc I mean the serious big goals that take planning and smaller goals along the way.
So this is my 2 year plan, obviously there is also the 5 year and 10 year plan but with my current 2 year plan I have never been so excited in my life.
Also I decided this is my year of chasing what I am passionate about. Teaching dance to kids. So my income and life may not be the most stable however it is doing what I love and enjoy the most. So it is an adventure and I am ready to take it on.
I hope you all have set some exciting and achievable goals. You don’t need to share them with anyone, just keep them to yourself and work out what you have to do each week, fortnight, month in order to achieve them!
I always find the end of year the hardest. I start over thinking about everything and anything. What is next year going to bring? Who am I going to be? What do I want to improve on? Do I want to make a major life change or stick with what I’m doing? Do I want to start a new project?
Seriously how many questions can you ask yourself while sitting in silence before going crazy? I can tell you that this thought process happens on the regular and makes me feel like the world is too much for me and I shut down just a little bit more.
However little by little I make small decisions which end up making in turn big decisions. Today I found out I got a fabulous dance teaching job I really wanted and had high hopes for. That was the small decision. The big decision was if I got that job I would need to buy a car. See what I mean, something small led to something major. Now buying a car may not be huge for everyone but for me it is something I have been working towards for a while and I haven’t needed one until now.
So while the world can be full of many decisions every day as long as you take one step at a time you are going to be doing okay. I promise.
And if you do find yourself in a cycle of questions and despair go for a walk to the beach or the park or sit outside in the fresh air, this will 100% make you feel ten times better than you did.
Adding something new to your daily routine can sometimes be difficult however I have put together a little list to give you some ideas to get started with. Have a look at my earlier post 6 Wellness Tips For Your Perfect Morning Routine to add these ideas to your morning routine.
The best advice I have ever been given is just to add one or two things at first and slowly add more and more. That way you don’t feel defeated when you sleep in or make a mistake on your path to a healthier lifestyle.
Say an affirmation in the mirror to yourself in the morning
Read 5 more pages of your latest book
Read the latest post on your favourite blog
Write down 2 things you are grateful for
Eat a healthy breakfast
Do a light yoga workout
Drink a glass of water with lemon (cold or hot)
Pack your food for the day
Start a new skin care routine
Make your bed
Check your weekly planner
Write a to do list
Light a candle
Have a bath
Do something you enjoy but never have time to do
Plan your next date night
Catch up with a friend or family member that you haven’t seen in a while
You can choose to do these things daily, weekly or monthly its completely up to you, it is your life! By making these changes you are not only going to make yourself happier but also the people around you. Just watch, having a happy healthy lifestyle will not just effect you but also the people surrounding you in a great positive way.
Life is all about the choices we make. Some turn out great and some lets be honest are a disaster. I have recently learnt that there is no situation you cannot get out of or change which, keeping this in mind takes a lot of the pressure off your decisions.
Feeling trapped is one of the worst feelings in the world, and I spent the last 3 years feeling like anything I did always turned out wrong and made me feel like the whole world was against me. This was until one random day someone said to me that all you have to do is think about life in a slightly different way and there is not situation you cannot get out of.
So here is what helped me:
– Have a job you hate? Starting looking for a new one. This makes you feel like there is something else out there, you may not be able to quit immediately but at least there is hope in the near future. You never know what might be out there waiting just for you to grab it!
– Want to change your career? Do it! Don’t let anyone tell you you are throwing away your life, it is YOUR life after all. If you have a passion for something, find more time for it. Want to start something new, try it. No one is going to judge you if you are happy and by making your own choices people will in turn be happy for you.
– Want to travel the world? Find a way to make it hapen, you never know who you will meet along the way. There are holidays where you blow all your money just like that or there are working holidays. I have this idea in my head that I want to live in a new country for 1 year, get a casual job and experience that new culture and travel on my days off. That sounds perfect to me but may not for someone else, come up with your own ideas and start a plan towards your goals.
Implementing these small changes in my mind meant that I didn’t feel stuck in what I was doing and gave me to confidence to make some major changes in my life.
Making your own choices in an important life skill to learn. A lot of the time we will look to others for their opinions. But in the end it is our life and the only person the decision is going to truly affect is ourselves. Keeping this in mind decisions are never indefinite, there is always a way out if you want it, so never feel like you have made the ‘wrong’ choice. Choose to look at it as if it was an experience that has made you a stronger person and realise what you really want out of life. So go out there and get it!
Sometimes looking back at life can be to worst thing we can do to ourselves. Thinking Where did I go wrong? or What if?
But what if we looked at all our past choices both positive and negative and choose to see them as stepping stones to learning more about ourselves and opening up to the world. What if everything happened when it happened for a reason?
This statement seems to resonate with me a lot. There are times when things are out of your control or you get ‘stuck’ doing something you didn’t want to do. Believing that these events happened for a reason somehow helps me, we might not know why today or even tomorrow but somewhere down the beaten path we will go ooohhhhhh THAT is why THAT happened or THIS happened because I made THAT stupid choice. But in saying that you shouldn’t look at yourself as the victim, this is not a ‘victim’ outlook, this is growing as a person and learning from the world around you outlook.
We all know life is not all sunshine and roses all the time. We have to walk in the rain and brush past some thistles to get to the good bits. And this is why I love the statement: ‘What if everything happened when it happened for a reason?’ It helps you to believe there is something good waiting for you out there in the world as long as you just keep going along and do your best.
I am a bit of a quote lover, but I tend to find my own meanings to them to directly link it into my own life. And at the moment this is it. Somehow it is making my next set of choices I have to make a bit easier, knowing that somehow it will all work its way out in the end.